Let's Talk About It

Is virtual betrayal still betrayal when the face is your twin?

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We read Jessica’s letter about a locked VR headset, a hidden camera, and a shocking reveal involving her identical twin. We unpack jealousy, boundaries, and what counts as betrayal when the line between real and virtual blurs.

• VR secrecy and the emotional impact on trust
• Setting adult routines instead of adolescent habits
• Is virtual intimacy with a known person betrayal
• How comparison to a sibling fuels resentment
• Concrete boundaries for tech, time and money
• Private, calm conversations that seek clarity
• Protecting the family while avoiding public shaming
• Rebuilding connection with small, repeatable rituals
• Choosing personal goals that reduce envy
• When to seek neutral third‑party support

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How's everybody doing out there? We are now live on TikTok. We'll see how this goes. But for those who are getting ready to tune in, I am the icon. This is the show called Let's Talk About It. Here will we read off letters that we usually get from Oh, hey mom. Letters that we get from just people, you know, average people that uh, you know, want some advice or want some advice or opinions on the matter, you know, nothing big, nothing, you know, nothing, nothing I can't handle, you know, but it's good. It's all good. So uh the name of the show is called Let's Talk About It. I am the icon, and basically what this is is just uh something I'm gonna try different, something do something different. So um we'll get into it, but for the most part, uh it's fun. I like doing it, it's uh just something I like doing on uh when I have downtime. So I'm not a licensed therapist, I'm not I'm just somebody that likes to give advice. So and I realize that people don't always like what I say, or I don't always don't have the right answer, and I'm completely fine with that, you know. I just do this for fun, and if I can help somebody, then I can. Um, the links are what I'm working on currently right now, um, but my show can be streamed anywhere that you listen to podcasts, whether it is uh on Amazon or i iTunes or wherever you can listen to a podcast. So in any event, feel free to drop me a line, or if you have any questions, comments, or gripes, complaints you simply do or you don't like the show, hey, it's all good. No worries. But in any event, we're gonna get into it. We are going to uh get into this letter that um Miss Jessica has sent me. And keep in mind when I read these letters, uh the people they do give me their first and last names, they do send pictures, but I don't generally share the pictures with the public because you know some people like to remain anonymous, some people like to remain anonymous, and I don't really want no drama or no flack or this shit coming back on me or saying, oh well, he did this, he did that. But no, no. So, in any event, we're gonna get right into this letter. Hopefully, uh we can give Miss Jessica some closure. I gotta say, when I read this letter, I thought, what the hell is this? This is uh, oh my god. But it's all good. So without further ado, let's get into this letter. This letter is titled My VR as in virtual reality. So here we go. Icon. Hello, my name is Jessica. I just need some advice. I feel like life is just going downhill for me. I can't seem to keep my head above water, and it seems that I'm just drowning. I'm married for two years and we have four kids. My husband is an idiot. It's like he's obsessed with his VR, and he pays more attention to the VR than he does me and my kids. And the funny thing is, he's always alone when he's on it. Okay, red flag there. He keeps this thing locked up tight like an animal in a zoo. He also has a combination lock on it, like it's money and a safe. That's that's kind of absurd. I ask him about it, and it's like it's his time away from home. And I'm like, what the WTO? What does that even mean? I asked him, can I play or see what the big deal is? And he threw a whole man child fit, throwing his hands up, yelling like he's a freaking kid in a toy store. I mean, he was he was really in his damn feelings about this thing. Icon, what the hell is this about? So you know what? I decided to do some investigating as well as you should, because that's what most women do when they spot a problem. They kind of put on their detective detective gear and then they kinda start going into detective mode. But let's finish this letter. This is what I did. I have no shame. I planned a night for me and my husband, and I mean, it's what we needed. He came home Friday from work afternoon. I prepared his favorite meal. His favorite meal is dyno nuggets and mac and cheese with the side Hawaiian punch. You know, I can't make this shit up. These are actual letters that people send to me, and I read them in their entirety. So, yes, we're talking about an adult who has a favorite meal, dino nuggets, mac and cheese with the side Hawaiian punch. I mean, you talking like this shit is a five-star dining restaurant. Whatever. Then for dessert, he had his favorite Rice Krispie treats made from fresh. This is the bad thing about reading these letters because I sometimes can't get them without laughing because I'm actually picturing this as I'm reading it. This guy is coming home from work, and his favorite meal is Dino Nuggets with mac and cheese. That's something. Oh, you know what? Let's just keep it going. Let's keep it going. So after that, needs to say I gave him a bath. Gave him a bath. What is this? And put some candles around the tub with his favorite bubble bath. You know, this just gets better and better. And for those few hours, I felt like things were going well. Because I understand that we have four kids, and maybe he just needs to relax. Okay. So all is well, so I thought, because we went into the room and his dumbass proceeded to get on his VR, and I went, and I was like, what the hell are you doing? He said he needed to check his email. Okay. I thought he was going to lay down some. Okay, hold on. I'll get it together. I thought he was gonna lay down some pipe. Instead, I told him I was going to the store. Okay, for y'all don't know who lay down a pipe is. I mean, we're not gonna go too far into that, but you know what it is. You know what it is. I was going to the store, I was pissed. But little does he know, I installed a mini hidden camera in our bedroom that I got from Amazon 1999 plus tax, which came up to$22.31. You know, the fact that you had to go ahead and throw that in there after tax is ridiculous. And you can put Amazon 1999. It was delivered to my mom's house because we all live in like the same mobile home park. Now it's starting to make sense. Okay. Icon, his ass was cooked. So upon the setup, I knew that his dumbass would take the bait. So I finally figured out what was happening. He's been chatting with someone uh the trailer park. Oh my gosh. He's been chatting with some trailer park trash named Jenny. Oh boy. Plot thickens. But he was doing something with the VR that he sure in the hell wasn't doing with me. I mean, I watched the whole damn thing on camera that this dumbass thought I was gone. I was just outside my car because I couldn't go too far because then the Wi-Fi would lose signal. You know what? The fact that you gotta keep explaining this is just ridiculous. Anyways, okay. Whatever she did to him knocked his ass out so bad that he left the VR on his head and he sleeps like a bear in hibernation. So that was my chance. I mean, you could literally beat his ass while he's sleeping and he wouldn't know it. I put on the VR set, and it was on this site called VR Porn. But when I checked the site, it's rated one of the best, and one of the girls. It's rated one of the best. This is not my words, these are her words. It's rated one of the best, and the girl Jenny was still alive, and it was like I was there in the damn room. What the hell? I immediately smacked him, but as I said, he couldn't feel a damn thing. But he's in bear mode, so you know. You know what, Icon? I left him. I went to my mom's trailer, which is five trailers over. That is not good. I think I need advice because I think I should leave him because he's cheating on me with Jenny. I almost went to Jenny's trailer park, which is eight trailers down from mine. But she is the woman uh you look for when your dog goes away goes astray from home. That's fast. We call her Jenny from the park. Not Jenny from the block, but Jenny from the park. But it wasn't her. This Jenny. A y'all ready for this? This Jenny was her damn was my damn twin sister. So I was even more mad because after having seen her since she left home, and she's doing way better than me. I'm not sure how that's that's relevant, but whatever. I mean, Icon, she has a double-wide three-bedroom, a master suite that looks like something out of a Holiday and Express. Jesus, I really gotta. I wonder how much she's making because my life is not what I want, and she's living a way better better life than me. And what I want. So, Icon, do you have any advice on how I can get like my twin sister? The fact of the matter is, this letter is ridiculous. You feel me? This letter is just oh my god. Um, it's just so much to unpack here. Oh my gosh, it's just so much to unpack here. Um, but we're gonna get into it though. Let me get ahead of this vape. You know, I got I gotta hit this vape. You know, I got my T. I always keep my T on standby. So the fact of the matter is that you're more concerned about your sister's well-being than your husband's well-being. The fact that he was on a VR site that your sister, your twin sister to be exact, is currently on. Now, before I get into the questions that I had for um for Jenny, I mean for Jessica, because her twin sister is Jenny. So before I get into the questions, I do have to say she sent me a picture of her, her twin sister, and her husband. Nice looking family. Okay, trailer park has nothing to do with it. I don't really think that's a big deal to me. I mean, it's it's what it is. I lived in a trailer park. Wasn't that kind of specific trailer park, but I lived in a trailer park. So I emailed Miss Jessica back. Jessica from West Virginia. So I asked some questions for her and she responded. I asked how old her and her boyfriend was. Um, she's 23 and he's 24. I asked, how long have you known your known your husband? She said they've known each other since they were kids. And this is a stupid question, even though it was already answered. I said, You live in a trailer park? She said yes. And I said, the same trailer park from when you were little, yes. And I asked, how much of your family lives in the same trailer park? She has mom, dad, two aunts, three cousins, and an uncle. I also asked, how long has your twin been gone from home? She said it's been one year. I also asked, Did she see her twin sister? She said yes. She visits our parents and brings gifts for the kids around the holidays, and then we talk on the phone. So not too bad of a relationship, but you know, a little bit weird. I said, I assume you guys are both close because you're identical twins. She says, Yes, she's the oldest by 45 seconds, and yes, they are close. And I said, Are you mad at your husband and have you talked to him about this? She shared with me, yes and no. And I asked, What does she meant by that? Well, she often warned about him and my sister's relationship, but he said that he loves me more, that that I can do things that she can't do. And he, okay, let me stop right here. Because here's the weird thing. I don't get none of this. If they're twins and they're identical, and they're clearly in this picture, they are identical. I don't understand this. I don't, I don't get it. Um, they're clearly identical twins. So we're gonna get more into that, but if she can do things that uh I don't know, it's it's just a red flag to me. It's just all so so blurry, so so weird, so what the hell is this? I mean, the fact that y'all live in a trailer park and this has got to be a small town because I've yet to encounter anything like this. So I asked her, is this a paid site? She didn't understand what that was. So I took the liberty of looking the site up, which is what I said before, VR porn. It is a virtual porn website that you go to have, you know, male fantasies, and you have a VR headset that you can look through and women, all this other stuff. Yes, I was on the site for well over 12 hours. So what? I had to do some investigation work. Yeah, I know how this works. Nah, just juggle. Hey, like, bro, 12 hours is a bit too much. Yeah, it is, it really is. In any event, it's a paid site, so it's like any other site that you're paid through that you okay. We're all adults here. So if you go on these sites and it's a paid site, you know you use tokens. So that's how these women make their money. You're paying in tokens. Yes, it's your money, but a percentage of the they get the tokens and a percentage of sales or whatever revenue that they get goes to them. So, yeah, it's not like we don't know. So, and I said, Oh, now the thing that got me was about the dino nuggets and mac and cheese. And I said, Well, do you always cook like this for your husband? And she said, No, we have sliders and fish sticks, which is even more worse. Damn. Holy crap. In any event, so I asked her, is her sister single? Not for my FYI, let's not get it twisted. So, whatever. But um, her sister is single. No, I will not share the picture, so you guys can be like, what does she look like? I need we need to see the picture. No, you do not. And I said, Does she have kids? She does not have kids. And then I asked the question because they're twins. And I said, Well, were you guys pretty popular in high school? And she said yes. Uh she would say yes because they're the only twins in high school. So clearly, this led me to believe is that this is a small town. Now, it's a small town. Um, if they're if you're the only twins in one high school, it's definitely a small town. Now, this is where I kind of thought that I don't know how I can help this young lady besides to, I don't know, because I don't understand what I can offer her in terms of advice, but I can try to help her out because what she didn't say is that her and her uh husband or were full or the husband wasn't fooling around with the twin sister. But this is probably playing devil's advocate, and I'll probably take the heat on that because if she's gonna listen to this, I'm pretty sure she's gonna have some choice words from me. And my listeners, if you're feeling the same way, I don't know. But hear me out. Hear me out. If they're identical twins and they look exactly alike, is it really cheating on you? I mean, is it though? I don't know. I mean, I don't know. Is it if they're identical twins? I mean, one's name is Jessica, one's name is Jenny, so the J's are still in there. I mean, they look just alike, and if I had to guess that every identical twin has an identifying mark that can separate the two of them, I didn't ask that question. I should have asked that question, but I don't get it. You know, you clearly um you guys have clearly been together since you were kids. So it's not like you guys had a chance to maybe test the waters and go out to see what's out there. The fact that you are dating him and you have a twin sister is just ridiculous in my mind. Probably a little bit, maybe not sick, but kind of a bit of a freakish sickest kind of fetish because they're identical twins. I mean, my God, how in the hell can you tell them apart? I mean, I'm looking at this picture and I'm like, you really can't tell them apart. I mean, they look like they're the same damn size, same hair, same everything. Now, this is currently now, this year, that she sent this picture. So um, she didn't send me a picture when they were little, but as of now, they look just alike. If they were pulling a Y swap, the twin edition, you would never know. Holy crap, you would never know. Because, well, then again, maybe hold on, hang on, y'all gotta get a sip of this tea. Hold on. Oh, that's good tea. That's good tea right there. But clearly, if in fact, if it was a wife swap edition, twins, this guy would not be able to tell them apart. The fact that um it's weird because it's weird to me because you're on VR and you're watching the twin sister, but you actually have the real thing right next to you. I don't understand this, I don't get it. Maybe it's a kind of a fetish thing because she's a twin and it's like what is it? It's like you're cheating, but I don't know because it's weird. If you're a twin, oh you know what? I'm gonna try to make some sense of this. Hang on. Married for two years, you have four kids together. Clearly, I don't think that your life, I think your life is going the way you want it, but I think you want better. And I think the only reason why you want better is because you've seen that your twin sister is doing a lot better than you. But here's the thing I get the feeling that you were more popular than she was, but that's probably not a fair comparison considering the fact that you're twins. In my opinion, there's always a twins that is more outgoing, the other one is shy, but kind of backs up the other twin because they have this twin vibe going. So I think that you were more popular than her, even though they that you guys are identical. I think you guys did everything together. I think you guys had a lot of friends. That being said, I think you wanted to come out on top on everything. And I mean that in a figuratively speaking, not in a literal sense, but I think that you wanted to be on top of everything. I think that you were the first one out, so you had the boyfriend. I think that's another question I should have asked. I should have asked if he was into the twin sister or if he made the right choice by going or marrying this sister, but I guess we'll never know. In any event, I think that you wanted this life in that your twin sister went off to go have a ridiculous life because she's making money, and you now said she's in a double wide with three bedrooms and a master suite that is out of the Holiday and Express. I've never stayed in a Holiday and Express, so I have no idea what the hell an express suite in a Holiday Express looks like. In any event, you guys need to get out some more. I mean, damn, it's just it's a lot to unpack in this letter. Um, my first suggestion with you is that you need to level up and boss up. Cooking a man dino nuggets and mac and cheese, that might be a red flag or an indication to say that I don't know if I want something better or if I'm going to stay in this relationship. Now, it's crazy because I understand that a grown man can have dino nuggets and mac and cheese, but you said that was his favorite meal. Clearly, if you've never cooked nothing else and put your foot into it or put your heart and soul into a food and into food. Now, I think that you should switch it up a little bit. I think you should try something different. Maybe try some grown-up meals and not kids' meals. Maybe um not draw him a bubble bath, but maybe you two get in the shower and let things go as what happens in the shower stays in the shower. Because clearly, I think you guys are are living in a teenage man-child or man-woman or teenage couple world. I've never heard of this. And I've seen some shit in my day, but I've never heard of this. And then the dasty, you said you have um fish sticks and sliders. I mean, I don't understand. It doesn't say uh maybe I missed it. Hold on, hold on, hold on. It doesn't say if you work or not. I didn't ask that question. So I don't know if you work or not, but judging by the kids that you have, which I'm assuming is still pretty young, um, because you're 23 and he's 24. So um clearly there was a teenage pregnancy. Not knocking it, not uh being disrespectful to you, but you guys are living where you're living, and I think you have no connection to the outside world. And I'm starting to think that in a trailer park, it is its own world. Because and the reason why I say that, because in a trailer park, everybody knows somebody. It's like a small town. It's like a small town, everybody knows everybody's business, everybody knows who the go-to person is, and it seems like there's no other life outside of the trailer park because everything happens in the trailer park. Now, I'm not knocking anybody who stayed in the trailer park because I stayed in the trailer park, but I didn't really stay in uh that kind of trailer park. So I think um my reasoning is this I think you should grow up a little bit. Um, I think you should maybe if your parents are up to helping you get in contact with some grown-up things or do some grown-up things. I don't know. I'm just saying this just doesn't make any sense to me. So, what I would first encourage you to do is maybe try something different. When I say try something different, uh maybe get into some cookbooks. If you are on the internet, like I think you are because you're a young adult, then I would probably get on TikTok or Instagram, whatever is the hell you get on, and then I would probably suggest that you get into some cooking some different dishes. Because if you can cook these different dishes, maybe there's a way that you and your husband can survive whatever the hell this is because I don't know what this is. I don't know what the hell's going on. It just sounds so ridiculous that it's like your teenager still and you guys fully haven't grown up. Um he's on the game or he's on his VR. Um, you are kind of figure out what's going to happen to your relationship. Well, I can tell you what you should what you should do. I think you should change to change things up a little bit. And when I say change things up, um come out of this shell that you're still in high school and come into the world called an adulthood. When you come into the world of adulthood, then things start to happen. Um I understand after high school, I think a lot of us feel a certain way that we have to grow up. Uh no, that we don't let me rephrase that. I think after high school, when we come out of high school, because I experienced this too, I was not ready to leave high school. And I wasn't ready to leave because of the friends and the environment, the teachers, and it kind of made you feel like, yes, everything was good and it was going to be all good. But the minute after you graduate, um, things change. Um, adulthood starts to set in, um, the world starts to change, you start looking at things differently, and you start trying to figure out which way is up and which way is down. And even though we have the support of our parents and the support of friends, well, it's hard just to say, well, I'm not ready to be out of high school yet. But it's all part of life, it's all part of growing up. You know, I often tell my kids, don't grow up too quick. You know, enjoy your years of high school, enjoy your fun. Because when you grow up too quick, and I think when it starts as if you become pregnant at such a young age, because sometimes you have to grow up quick. I mean, not all the times, but sometimes. So, my suggestion is you gotta change your whole dynamic. Now, you talking about you want what your twin sister has. I don't know respectfully if you can have that because you have four kids. Now, you're Your twin sister, on the other hand, doesn't have a boyfriend. She doesn't have kids. So, in my opinion, I would say she's living her butt her best life. And I'm not trying to rub that in your face. I'm not trying to put you down and say, well, um, you should get like her. No, you guys are twins, but you both have an individual life. And that life is you go do you and she does her. Now, the only good thing is coming out of this letter is that you guys haven't said that uh your husband has made a move on the twin sister. I mean, I'm not honestly sure how you could do that, but and you said that he that you do things that she doesn't do. So I guess I'm kind of still confused because in my mind, and again, this is just my opinion. I can't really say that he's cheating because he's not really doing anything physical with her. And I don't know what a screen name is, and you didn't say if they talk or if they chat on the side. I mean, clearly, I don't think that's the case, but if you think that's the case, then what science director look for is that if they act a certain way around each other, if when she comes over for the holiday dinners and she doesn't speak to him, but um well no, if she speaks to him and it's kind of in a a more like a flirtatious tone, whatever that may be. But if she comes over and she greets him and says, hi, hey, how you doing, this and the other, and then goes on about her business, I don't really think there's nothing there. I don't. I'm not sure what this kind of fetish is, um, because he has the real thing at home, which is you, but then he's also fascinated with the twin sister, which I don't get what that is, because you guys clearly look alike. So I don't know. I mean, I would say you can be mad at him for doing it and probably approach him on it, but I wouldn't let this get out of hand. I would probably try to make some sense of it and understand why he's doing the things that he's doing. So I would challenge you to you guys need to both talk. And for the love of God, please get out of the damn house and not serve this man kids' food. Because that shit is what you should feed to your kids, which I'm sure if I'm thinking about this correctly, y'all all had the same damn thing, and your kids probably went bonkers over and he may have gone crazier, may not. You know, I actually want to hear from your husband. I mean, you're more than welcome to play this back for him. Maybe he can talk to me and or send me a letter. And I mean, I'm just not wanting to know the facts or logistics about the relationships, but I'm just trying to figure out what is your guys' life? Does he think he made the right decision by marrying you? I would ask that question respectfully. Um I honestly don't see this though. But like I said in the beginning, you're more mad at him. Um I mean, you're more mad at her because of her lifestyle, and that's the lifestyle that you don't have. And I don't understand why that is. Because the lifestyle that you have is a good life. You have a family. Now, yes, I know sometimes kids can be overwhelming, especially if they're young, and you have four. But judging by this picture, I'm assuming this picture was after the fact that you had four kids because I'll be damned. You guys look good. You look good, the husband is handsome. I don't even see where the kids come into play at. So if this is a more recent photo of you, then kudos to both because judging by me, it looks like it is. But in any event, I think you need to put things in perspective for yourself. I think that sometimes the life that we want, we can't always have. I mean, honestly, what are you gonna do? Desert um your children and your husband and go to this life and try to be with this life with um that your twin sister has? What what what are you gonna do there? You're gonna leave your twin, your kids to be raised by your husband, and then you're gonna be often thinking about, well, did I make the right choice? Hell no, you didn't make the right choice. You left four kids and a husband. So sometimes in life we can't always get what we want. Sometimes in life, we have to endure what life is, and we have to go through some things. Now, as I said before, you started out in this journey, you had one kid. You didn't stop at one, you had four. So I clearly think that you were in a place to say that I don't know if you're in competition with your twin, which I wouldn't be, or if you're in a competition with whoever, I don't know. But I think you should um, I think you both should go out. I think you guys should go out, have a nice dinner, something that involves a kid's meal, maybe pass McDonald's and past Sonic, and maybe just find a restaurant. You say you're in West Virginia, I'm pretty sure West Virginia has some good restaurants there. I think you two should talk it out, and I think you guys should just think about what your life is going to be and how you can not really come back from this, because I don't think you're not coming back from it. I think the fact is just that um you're just dealing with something, you maybe you're like going through like a mental, maybe a mental crisis. I'm not sure. I'm not sure. But I don't think you should base your life off your twin sister's life because that life, you never know. You may not be up for that life, and she might be up for that life. So if the life is good for her, but who's to say it's gonna be good for you? You just don't know. You don't know, you don't understand, and it could be a good thing, it could be a bad thing. Because again, she doesn't have kids, she doesn't have a boyfriend, so she can do this. So my goodness This letter was just something different. Give me just a second here. Okay. So I think I think that the life that you have now is a good life. I think that you should just start to evaluate how you want to go on with your life. And what I mean by going on, do you want to be married? Do you love this guy? I mean, if you guys have been married for you've been married for two years, there's gotta be something there in the four kids. Don't throw this all away because of your jealousy of what your sister has and what you don't have. You can get to the places where you want to be and you can get to the things that you want to do. You first have to just try to do what you want to do. It's going to be hard because you have four kids, but it's not impossible. I've seen plenty of women that have multiple kids and that go on to live such a bigger and better life, and they are very successful. So I don't think that you can sit back and just say, well, that's the light that you want. You can do anything you want by putting your mind to it. You can do anything you want by maybe setting up a schedule. Again, I would just try to do something different in reference to your relationship with your husband. That's the number one thing you need to start with. You need to start with trying to figure out what you and your husband are going to do about your future. And what you guys do about your future is how you can go forward and say, well, this is how we can be happy. Again, I don't think it's your twin sister's fault because she's on the site. I think maybe your um husband has some kind of something to bear on her because he's on the site. I mean, and I don't know, it's probably an outlet for men because I understand that men sometimes get overwhelmed. I understand that men um need an outlet, and I get it. In this case, men have an outlet for video games. Everybody's fetish is different, everybody's things are different. So I hope this letter finds you in a good way. I hope this letter is just something that you can just maybe sit back and think. And you can feel free to rewrite me again to see how things went and how things are going. Because I believe that uh a family should always stay together. I mean, the good thing is about this letter, you didn't say he was cheating. That's a good thing. He wasn't cheating, uh, though, yes, he was looking at your twin sister, but he wasn't physically cheating, it's not like she was in the room, and I get it. When you're on VR, it makes it seem like the person's actually in the room, and I get that. But it's just an image. So technically, she's not really there. She's on Lord, on camera, Jesus, which probably makes it a lot more worse, but I think that you're gonna be okay. I think that once you get to a place where you need to get to, I think everything's gonna be fine. I think that you just gotta kind of put things in perspective and figure out what it is that your life is going to be. Once you figure that out, you can go on to being who you need to be. Get with your parents, talk to your parents. I wouldn't let them know about this thing because I don't even know if your twin sister has even said anything about um doing this or what's going on with um this whole thing with your twin sister. And some parents don't want to know. Some parents do, some parents don't. And if that's for your sister to tell, not to you. So don't go blown at the spot because you feel in some type of way, or you're kind of jealous, or you're thinking like, well, I want what she has. So if I can't get what she has, then she can't be happy. So I want you to be happy. Anderson, thank you for the follow. I appreciate it. I want you to be happy, but at the same time, I want you to understand that destroying somebody else's life is not gonna make you happy, it's just gonna send you into a downward spiral. And it's gonna, I've heard I believe in karma because what goes around comes around. So you spend so much time trying to work on destroying this person's life instead of working on your own life. And the crazy thing is, she's your twin sister. She didn't do anything wrong to you. She's just on a video, she's making money, and she's making money the way she wants to make money. How is she to know who your husband is or what his handle is online? I don't think she knows. Because clearly, if she did know, I think she would probably be inclined to uh tell you. I would hope, since you guys are both close, that she would do that. But if you if you guys get if you guys get together and you talk and she hasn't said anything about it, and then here's another thing. What you didn't say in the letter was that if your husband acts a certain way when he's when you're talking to your twin sister or she's on the phone, I don't I don't know. I don't know. But then again, for me, it's like the other way around. If your twin sister is acting in such a manner that you would see that she feels uncomfortable around um your husband, then maybe, but I don't know because it's kind of a 50-50 thing here, and you don't really know, especially in this day and age. But like I said, I don't think this is your sister's fault. I don't. I think, and the crazy thing is, I don't know how he even got to the site. Um, but then again, you know, when you're in VR, you try different things, and VR just ain't for virtual gaming. You can do a lot of stuff in VR. So, but it doesn't sound like your husband's cheating because you said he comes home after work. And if he comes home after work and he is happy to see you, but you said he does spend, he doesn't spend that much time with you, but he spends more time on the VR. Okay, so let me back up a bit. If he pays more attention to the VR more than he does you and the kids, talk to him. Find out what's going on, find out if there's something that can be fixed. Find out if he wants to be in this marriage. Find out if you want to be in this marriage. I would encourage the two of you both to just sit down without the kids, have a nice quiet evening and talk. There's no need to blow up, there's no need to get mad. I don't know what the answer that he could give you that would probably justify his actions. I don't honestly, I don't know. Because it's still kind of weird to me that you guys are twins and that he can get on this site and see her anytime, but he has the real twin in front of him right there. I don't understand that. That's weird to me. And I guess I'm never gonna understand it because it's just weird. How do you have a twin sister that's on a foreign site, but he has a twin sister that he's married to that lives right there in the damn house? I don't get that. That's weird. God Lee. Trying to think if I need a therapy after this because shit, it's crazy. So, in any event, I I don't know, but I hope this letter finds you in a place or this podcast finds you in a place that you can maybe put some things in perspective. I don't know. This letter's I was really not prepared for this shit. I gotta be honest with you. I wasn't prepared for half the shit that was going on in this letter. The thing that most gets me is that they're twins, and that I don't know. I don't know. So, as we get ready to close this show out, um I want to say, Jessica, I hope you do the right thing. I hope that you find um some kind of solace, some kind of peace, or I hope that you find some kind of happiness. I hope that your relationship gets back on track. I hope that everything's gonna be okay. For those of you guys who joined me and followed me on TikTok, I appreciate it. Um the show is called Let's Talk About It. I am the icon. On your screen, you can stream my podcast on anywhere you listen to podcasts. Uh, the YouTube channel has all of my podcast episodes. 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But I do this for fun because I love doing it. I do this because it's just I enjoy it. So every Wednesday, new episodes will drop and they should come out. So again, I take letters that listeners either send to me or people just want some information or advice or whatever. I'm not a licensed therapist, so whether you choose to take my advice or you don't, it's completely okay. It's all right, not a big deal, not a big deal. So oh, I love this fate. In any event, the links are in the description of my podcast on Buttroute. You can follow me on IG, you can follow me on TikTok, uh, YouTube, or wherever. You know the crazy thing is, I was actually gonna go live on IG, but I just found out that they took that away. You now have to have over a thousand followers. So whether I have a thousand followers or not, it doesn't really matter to me. But I do this because I enjoy it. And if somebody wants to give me their problems and I try to make it better for you, hey, I can do that. I can at least try. And if not, then I can't say no point of saying I didn't try, but I did. So as we get ready to wrap this show up, I want to thank you guys for listening. Thank you guys for tuning in to the show. Um, hopefully everybody's weak, everybody's day will go better. Hopefully, all is well with you and your family. Until next time, you guys take care of yourself and each other. The show is let's talk about it. I'm the icon. Until next time, take care.